In the United States, we’ve just celebrated Thanksgiving. I’ve much enjoyed the turkey, mashed potatoes, gravy and pumpkin pie. It’s a day of indulgence that’s guilt-free for me — a treat that only happens on special occasions…
so…I say, enjoy it! Along with the annual feast, Thanksgiving day provided an opportunity to get together and enjoy time with family. Also, it’s a perfect time to reflect on how much there is to be grateful for — all that is good in the world.
One thing I’ve reflected on more often in recent years (especially now that I’m approaching age 58) is how thankful I am for my health, my physical and overall well-being. In the past, I haven’t exactly treated myself, my body, with the greatest of care. Through all the ups and downs, by body has weathered the storms and, continues to serve me well. I am so thankful! But, I don’t want to take this for granted — the physical signs are also more often cropping up, reminding me of my age and the consequences of the choices that I make.
And, I’m sometimes reminded of these things in not-so-pleasant ways when I’m out running around doing errands. Last week while shopping in a store, I passed a man and, with a smile on my face, said “Excuse me” while passing through the narrow aisle and…he said something snarky under his breath—in reference, I determined, to my appearance. I’m a big gal—size 20; and my casual clothing, minimal attention to hair and makeup must have triggered him in some way. Well, on this day, HE triggered me—big time.
I had to resist the strong urge to follow him and give him a swift kick in the ass. What was he judging me for? I immediately assessed his appearance—he was bald, short and could have lost a few pounds himself. There. I had him figured out. I did what I so often do myself—judge others on their appearance—see their apparent shortcomings that are most often what I don’t like about myself.
Isn’t it so the truth about our human condition? We judge others on what we most don’t want to see in ourselves. This is a lesson I’ve needed to learn over and over again. I’ve learned one of the first steps to be free from this cycle is: to love myself — just as I am! With all the lumps, bumps and imperfections. To do this authentically has been harder than it would seem—it’s been much easier to love others than myself. I’m getting better at it, though, and continue to be (or try to be) open to the lessons this life journey has for me. On the best of days, I’m thankful for the soul-growth opportunities.
In the next few weeks, I’ll be starting a new “New Year 2018” weight release group. I’m still exploring the structure of it—but, it will be simple and easy to participate. If this might be of interest to you, stay tuned for updates!